Comments on: A Little Princess http://danyaruttenberg.net/2006/12/26/a-little-princess/ Danya Ruttenberg's website Thu, 08 Jan 2009 18:00:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: Kol Ra'ash Gadol http://danyaruttenberg.net/2006/12/26/a-little-princess/#comment-14417 Kol Ra'ash Gadol Wed, 27 Dec 2006 04:05:58 +0000 http://danyaruttenberg.net/2006/12/26/a-little-princess/#comment-14417 There's an interview with Lamb and Brown in the Latest issue of Bitch, by the by. IMO, a big part of the difficulty with feminism is that it's succeeded, but not enough, and that's why women have turned against it. If you can kill yourself to be smart, pretty, thin, kind etc etc, and then get out of school, and your husband who got maybe okay grades is making way more than you, and you're still doing all the housework, and can't get time off for maternity leave, hit the ceiling with the very well documented discrimination in the workplace against mothers, and are just exhausted all the time, after a while the struggle may well seem more than it's worth. Why <i> not</i> just give up and stay home with someone who at least appreciates you in some way - at least until he or she turns 12 and you become an embarrassment and a fool. It's hard to plan one's life on the concept that one deserves more (or even that one ought to take precautions that one's husband/whatever won't leave you high and dry in poverty) when it's very very difficult to get even if you are well nigh perfect in every way. There’s an interview with Lamb and Brown in the Latest issue of Bitch, by the by.
IMO, a big part of the difficulty with feminism is that it’s succeeded, but not enough, and that’s why women have turned against it. If you can kill yourself to be smart, pretty, thin, kind etc etc, and then get out of school, and your husband who got maybe okay grades is making way more than you, and you’re still doing all the housework, and can’t get time off for maternity leave, hit the ceiling with the very well documented discrimination in the workplace against mothers, and are just exhausted all the time, after a while the struggle may well seem more than it’s worth. Why not just give up and stay home with someone who at least appreciates you in some way - at least until he or she turns 12 and you become an embarrassment and a fool.
It’s hard to plan one’s life on the concept that one deserves more (or even that one ought to take precautions that one’s husband/whatever won’t leave you high and dry in poverty) when it’s very very difficult to get even if you are well nigh perfect in every way.

]]> By: pgiller http://danyaruttenberg.net/2006/12/26/a-little-princess/#comment-14410 pgiller Wed, 27 Dec 2006 02:35:22 +0000 http://danyaruttenberg.net/2006/12/26/a-little-princess/#comment-14410 It's beyond your control & subject to the zeitgeist. The princess is an archetype, and exactly the one you want to provide: security and protection, strong parental role models. The more you provide alternative models the bigger the backlash. My $.02, based on experience. I had to travel to teach when my daughter was 2. While I was away, she saw "Sleeping Beauty." When asked saved the princess at the end, she said "Abba." It’s beyond your control & subject to the zeitgeist. The princess is an archetype, and exactly the one you want to provide: security and protection, strong parental role models. The more you provide alternative models the bigger the backlash. My $.02, based on experience.

I had to travel to teach when my daughter was 2. While I was away, she saw “Sleeping Beauty.” When asked saved the princess at the end, she said “Abba.”

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